Many times I have found myself in the last few years being confronted by these words.
"Do you need help?"
The irony is, I am just standing still or sitting on my scooter waiting to pass by or limp my way to a destination. And, ironically, I never heard these words in my prior 18 years, when I was able to hide my mobility challenges.
So it got me thinking… why do people say this? In most exchanges, a person asks for help and help may or may not be given. The point is, I never asked. If a person is, just like us all, rolling along getting from point A to point B in a device, does one automatically assume help is needed? In my moments of frustration, I think I am a person who was just like you, only 24 months ago, walking around with ease. It is only recently, that I can no longer hide, but I have never been embarrassed by it. I just know, 99 out of 100 people are just thinking of themselves. So I never mentioned it. I think of the many individuals who have been dealing with mobility issues their whole life, recently, or are just noticing a change. It could be much worse, and in my case as well as many others, it just happened. We must see people are people no matter what package they come in. Shit happens.
I see myself as just another fish in the pond, which just happens to swim with special fins. On land, I am wishing for wings, but until technology evolves, we are all getting to our destinations at our own speed, so why not just smile or just say…”hello.”
Has anyone else had this experience too?