Feel like a Corona?
Ok, I admit for the last ten years I have been told to meditate.
I always have something else to do. U?
This week, to honor your unique self, just meditate. If you have a religious or spiritual belief, this unique self will show up when you meditate.
It will be
I say this because, after ten years, I am doing it with discipline.
No rules, if I miss a day, so what? I am doing it.
During this virus takeover, I took part in a national fifteen minute Hindu prayer on Facebook to chant for all beings on the earth now.
To be well, to not fear death, to be connected.
The priest led us in three Hindu chants in which included saying “OM” which refers to Oneness silently, out loud, and in prayer.
I admit, it helped me during this…..transition. Over 2000 people joined in,WOW!
So meditate and you may find U and what your unique squiggly song is, faster than you know it.
Hey, Hey, Hey, Thursday,
Today, I want to talk about how important laughter is. Given all the stress of being quarantined, corona virus information on social media, television, everywhere, we need to laugh.
Not being able to be a physical part of our communities that give us sanity in life, we must laugh daily now, more than ever.
Science has proven that laughter boosts immune cells. It does a real thing inside our bodies, which science will prove more and more as we evolve into the future.
Wouldn’t it be cool if laughing nonstop could destroy the corona virus like firing a laser beam at an enemy in a video game?
So find what makes you laugh and do it daily. It is my virtual recommendation vitamin.
My secret sauce is watching videos of Robin Williams on YouTube.
What things he would be talking about now, if he were still with us in person?
Stay home, be safe. We will get through this together.
Hi Thursday, my favorite of days,
Yep, I am one.
This week I would like to share an interview of a true woman. Another She, among us.
My dear friend IX has a site which is one of my favorite online. A musician, and fellow artist himself, since high school we have shared an understanding of things. He spends his energy on things that matter, telling the world about people to pay attention too.
Check out the interview here, https://www.facebook.com/IXarchist/videos/10163026364810545/
It is about an hour long but, like he says worth every word.
Thanks for being one of the guys that gets it, represents us and reminding me how important my feminine energy is.
I hope you enjoy!
Here is Maysa Daw’s work with DAM (subscribe to them on YouTube) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YNLYjZmRx0Q
KALLEMI (girl band) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HrwuZcOLONM
I am truly proud of his work with the B-Side. https://thebsidetalk.com/ (Subscribe)
Thank you, IX
Whatz up Thursday,
There is a cold streak that has covered the northeast this week and it made me think about fear. Plus all the news is filled with the corona-virus scare.
So what do we do with fear?
I have found that for the most part the best thing to do is accept that you have it and it is real.
Fear is a natural thing, and can be a clear tool in your body telling you to take a step back, slow down and get some information.
All my life I have felt fear. I was raised in a family that had no use for fear and it was confusing at times. “Just do it,” was the mantra. So I had no time to think, I had to just do.
It is only in my later years that I have learned to embrace fear and listen to my intuition for myself to make an informed decision.
Being taught to leap first then adjust in the situation as needed, is valuable. I am thankful, because I would not have experienced many of the things I’ve done if I let fear stop me.
Here are a few tips.
Life could get more colorful.
What do you think?
This video made me smile. It was taken in a village in India in which this dog comes every week to sing in the temple with fellow devotees. We are all the same, just might speak in different languages.
Wow this week I need to run wild through the ocean waves while howling like a wolf.
My belief is, to have a healthy interaction, everyone must be able to speak and be responsible for only one’s self.
Questions like, “Do you need help? Can I help you?” shows awareness and empathy for another.
We need more of this!
But what do you do when questions are offered and the other person has not asked for anything?
I have been hearing this question often from strangers. As an individual who has recently been using an assistive device to get around in this crazy world of ours, I need to give a perspective from a squiggly or someone who is challenged.
We all may have difficulty asking for help. Yet, when one has not asked, if someone offers it, it can make one feel not part of the tribe known as human.
Try to not ask unless there is a clear situation in which the person needs it. Example, I was coming home on the metro rail. I ride an electric scooter and as I was trying to get into the car, the ledge for entry was not high enough and I got stuck. A gentleman jumped up and helped me into the car safely before the doors closed. Compare that to, I was coming out of the elevator to wait for the next train. An individual walked over and asked if I was going up to the street? As a courtesy, I said “no, but if you are asking how to get up to the street, you can look at the posted signs.”
Her response was, “No, it was for you. You looked like you needed help.”
Huh? I never asked you for help? What if she said, “Do you need help getting up to the street?”
Then, I could have said, “No, thank you. Or “Yes, “please help me with…”
Treat everyone with respect. Ask questions.
Let the other person in the interaction be responsible for their part.
Do not make judgements.
There are many things that make us unique. If you do not communicate by asking questions, like offering help when someone has not asked, it can be perceived as placing yourself above the other person. But if you ask questions, everyone is honored. It is pure communication.
We all are navigating our own lanes. I do not have time to navigate my lane and respond to your concern if I have not indicated or shown a need for help. Ask Questions.
If you disagree, I would love to hear from you.
This one I am feeling the need to do, more than usual this week. If you see yourself as a Squiggly Line and have been told you follow the beat of your own drummer, this need for setting boundaries is so important. Do you often get a crinkled brow, look of confusion and response of “ok whatever, no worries?” Or have you experienced, the most difficult one, silence.
Relationship forming takes time, it can be messy and uncomfortable but if you want a good one, be sure to be clear with communicating your needs and always BE YOU.
Even if you are not a Squiggly Line, the idea of a boundary is letting another know your needs and voicing your own comfort level.
Example: a love interest asks you on a date. The date is in another city and thus you will have to spend the night to attend the date. You have no money and you are recovering from another relationship. Or you are asked to attend an event and getting calls from friends encouraging that you come. Yet, you are drained from work, family and life.
You know in your gut, going on this date will make you uncomfortable, even though you really want it…and if you do not recover your sleep and general well-being, attending an event will just drain you more.
So what is your boundary?
Setting and telling your clear needs by communicating as soon as able. Use words “I need …” and as mentioned in an earlier post, it is ok to say “let me get back to you.”
Done, you have set your boundary. And it clearly honors your needs. You will know this in your gut.
In addition, if you have “challenges” with good days and bad days based on health, boundaries are essential. For me, the biggest boundary I need is a feeling of honor in a relationship. I need one to show up, communicate. This shows me you have an interest in the relationship.
I must plan all activities, be able to dictate my own flow and if I clearly express a need and ask for a response….I need one to be real.
Shit happens, of course, but if it does, just communicate.
Let me be in the conversation, so if things happen I can feel honored and plan around it. I do not want to chase you for a response or worse have you show up after I chased you, just to make me happy. Since I need a relationship of honor how is this honoring you? Are you sacrificing your needs just to fulfill a commitment?
This week, I have felt dishonored. I asked for help and when I followed up I was told, “I forgot, I was ill, no worries I will be there.” Also, I had a person plan a visit and show up hours later than planned for without telling me the reason for being late. I asked to reschedule and when they came, they said, “we ran behind, we had other commitments, but we are here now.”
Honestly, I had other commitments too, I wasted my whole day waiting. So yeah, in their mind, they helped and showed up. Yet, it could be interpreted as ”yes, we had a commitment but it will happen on my schedule not yours because I am the one giving, so you need to be flexible. Relax.”
Hence, I feel not honored, not heard, you are not being real. But I did not clearly communicate.
People cannot read minds, so all you can be responsible for is communicating your needs. If someone does something that makes you feel bad, one must not allow this behavior to continue in building the relationship. Mainly, we all want to be honored in our requests.
In many cases, it is just miscommunication.
So just take note, never apologize to make it….more comfortable, and then try and ask again.
But if another opportunity arises involving the one you got a bad feeling about, make sure your needs are clearly communicated. “I need…..”
Of course, if after you set the boundary and it is not met, you feel uncomfortable and not honored in the relationship, you will know now, what to expect.
It is important, regardless to say thank you.
Recognize the behavior and move on. Never compromise on your boundaries. If it is honored, then you feel good and all will be in balance.
If not, then move on, no looking back, no self-questioning, it is not you.
“You probably wouldn't worry about what people think of you if you could know how seldom they do.” – Olin Miller
I read a version of this quote over thirty years ago. There was a part that followed that I struggle to find the exact words now, but recall as, “Knowing this will be disheartening at first, but then, will give one tremendous freedom.”
In some cases, some are too busy just surviving, truly.
In a world that currently is reeling with an impeachment trial in the U.S.A., another attempt at peace policies in the Middle East, recovering from the fires in Australia, the contra virus in China, the earthquake off of Cuba, family, kids, work…it can be overwhelming. In an age that has shifted to social media for interaction, connection and community, I thought this week could be a reminder of how important finding the center, can be for us all.
Take time to listen to your gut in every decision. Be confident to put up a hand if asked for something and say, “Let me think about it” or “No, thank you,” if appropriate.
We all get one life. You must use that time on things you know define your true self or center.
Take a deep breath, listen to your voice and let it tell you the answer. That answer is coming from your unique Center.
Plus, go outside, meet a friend and turn off your phone.
I will admit writing this post was a tough one today. At the right there is a button which reads “Find Your Buddy.”
If you click it will take you to a site which I have supported for over twenty years. It is the only place to go when I hear someone say, “I want to get a dog, cat, etc. or I need to find a home for my pet. This organization is connected to all the rescues and they help people find pets/place pets in new homes.
Let’s stop breeding animals to be our pets. There are too many pets awaiting homes. Not to mention all the animals euthanized due to lack of room and resources. Just like all the excess we have now, why are we producing more? Why not just use what we have already? Do you really need shiny and new?
One of these organizations, I found my Toby in 2001. He proved to be the best dog anyone could ask for. On the other hand JuJubi I was given from a neighbor.
I lost her just about four weeks ago.
She was a troubled dog. Troubled in the sense she never recovered from her previous trauma. She was never able to depend on anyone and thus she was hard to train. She lived to not be a problem in any way to us, for fear she would be given away again. She was really just surviving for these past ten years.
Given we had her since 2010, with the support of having another dog to train her and a loving home, she still did not fully recover. She never trusted anyone, but she did best she could with me, this last five years. Given she died so fast, and we found no reason for her not eating, no matter how crazy it may sound, she died from a broken heart. Toby passed in 2017 and every time we went for a vacation etc., we spend months building back her trust. Then, after going on a trip at thanksgiving, when we returned she gave up. Given her history, she did not want to be here. She wanted to be with her Toby. He was truly someone who never abandoned her, he was her top pack member. We humans try but never meet the mark.
This organization helps place dogs who are abandoned and they are people who are lovers of animals. If my JuJubi had not just been placed with me by a neighbor just after her trauma, I do believe she could have gotten some training before I had to train her myself.
This website is a wonderful place in the interest of animals.
As a squiggly, all said and done JuJubi was my girl. I miss her tremendously. I am missing the energy of another soul to hang with. Husbands, family, some friends are all necessary, but a pet, a buddy is a whole new level of fulfilling one’s needs. Needless to say, there is a piece of my heart missing. Like losing a family member, they cannot be replaced and I heard a line that sums it up, “I will have a little pain every day, till I die.”
If you get a rescue, you have to pay for them. It is minimal compared to a breeder, so I hope you always choose a rescued pet. Visit the button ---->.
I know you will find Your Buddy, like I did.