So it’s been about 4 months that we have been asked to quarantine ourselves. One of the biggest things I believe we have recognized is that we need socialization more than we were aware of. Even going and being among our fellow humans as we carry on about our day is essential. My memory goes to days I was riding the subway in New York City. The smells of urine permeated the air as I made my way to my destination. The smell really sucked but it was human. It was humanity. I am a people watcher and I need to be with people and watch the world.
Now we are becoming pod people. Imagine a world in which we all are bouncing around in bubbles. Bouncing against each other like balls on a tennis court. Maybe that’s my next short story?
About this time of year, we all might be planning a trip or a vacation with friends to release the pent-upness of life, but now we have to think twice.
Here are a few tips to help with release.
What the hell are you talking about…rest?! I have too much to do!
This week, let’s talk about rest or more important fatigue. There has never been a time in our history in which humans have been exposed to stimulus at such a high frequency. We can get it, see it, learn it, do it, whatever we want…it is just a click and charging that credit card away.
In the current pandemic if we work from home there is no down time between work and play. Now more than ever we need time to rest.
Our animals and children will remind us. My nephew just called me on a group chat. When I saw the missed call and text my sister to ask if she had called, she replied that he took her phone. She was working and he is only nineteen months old. Ha!
Even in doing this research I was bombarded with advertisements which I had to click on to remove from the screen while trying to get information.
Shut up already!
How many calls a day do you get from advertisers? Putting your phone on silent is the only option to get anything done these days. How many family members need something from you, or of you, now? “Just email me” is the new norm. We just don’t have time. We have to prioritize everything we do. It is like a dog barking at a doorbell and we all…are barking internally.
Take time to rest. Here are a few suggestions.
This title refers to the thought that if you want to be something, allow yourself to get out of the way. Many of us have absorbed the thoughts, teachings or beliefs given to us as we grew up. As a result, we had to do a dance with our thoughts about what to keep and what to discard which dictate how we act in the world. What are the rules supporting how to survive and succeed? Like many of us I have been struggling with what to write this week, given the last few weeks in which there has been great hope and great despair. And, we are in the middle of a virus rewriting our way of life. So I too, am struggling with how I feel. And being white, I feel the need to be an example of being better.
The one thing that comes up is we humans need to get out of our own way. Meaning, let’s stop being proud and selfish. Be open and see yourself in another, even animals. Would you allow harm to yourself in this way? Plus, personally, I was given what some were not, simply because of my skin color. I have to remain aware of this privilege.
I recently watched again, the film entitled “I Am Not Your Negro,” to hear what Mr. Baldwin calls, “moral apathy.” My understanding of what it means is, in the face of moral wrong to others we do nothing. Just like when there was slavery to protect one’s investments, just like when we allow mass incarceration of people mostly of color to continue, just like when we see someone being marginalized or killed, we say or do nothing to change it. We do not vote or support businesses which uphold moral decency. Why do we have to have other? Why do we believe we have no power?
My older brother sent a video which I think illustrates the dance we as white people do. Do you think how you act can impact the tapestry of our world? How do you get out of your own way?
I’d love to hear your thoughts.
What a time we are living in now. A virus, quarantine, deaths by choice from those in law enforcement and death by those as a reaction to it.
We are tired.
We are ready for change. A change that is respectful of all life on this planet we call home.
Have you had enough? Is your instinct talking?
Instinct is within all of us and it is the thing, if we listen, will give guidance when we cannot find it elsewhere. So if you have been feeling lost, here are a few tips to remember your instinct.